
The “family” of humankind:
“ When Adam had lived 130 years, he had a son in his own likeness, in his own image; and he named him Seth. After Seth was born, Adam lived 800 years and had other sons and daughters. Altogether, Adam lived 930 years, and then he died. – Genesis 5.3-5
All human beings are related, going back to Adam and Eve. Mankind is a family that shares one flesh and blood. Remember this when prejudice enters your mind or hatred invades your feelings. Each person is a value and unique creation of God.
Children follow parent’s example:
When the men of that placed asked him about his wife, he said, “She is my sister,” because he was afraid to say, “She is my wife.” He thought, “The men of this place might kill me on account of Rebekah, because she is beautiful.”
When Isaac had been there a long time, Abimelech king of the Philistines looked down from a window and saw Isaac caressing his wife Rebekah. So Abimelech summoned Isaac and said, “She is really your wife! Why did you say, ‘She is my sister’?”
Isaac answered him, “Because I thought I might lose my life on account of her.”
Then Abimelech said, “What is this you have done to us? One of the men might well have slept with your wife, and you would have brought guilt upon us.”
So Abimelech gave orders to all the people: “Anyone who molests this man or his wife shall surely be put to death.” – Genesis 26.7-11
Isaac was afraid that the men in Gerar would kill him to get his beautiful wife, Rebekah. She he lied, claiming that Rebekah was his sister. Where did he learn that trick? He may have known about the actions of his father, Abraham (see 12.10-14 and 20.1-4). Parents help shape the world’s future by the way they shape their children’s values. The first step towards helping children live rightly is for the parents to live rightly. Your actions are often copied by those closest to you. What kind of example are you setting for your children?
Ceremony of passing on family blessing:
Isaac trembled violently and said, “Who was it, then, that hunted game and brought it to me? I ate it just before you came and I blessed him – and indeed he will be blessed!”
When Esau heard his father’s words, he burst out with a loud and bitter cry and said to his father, “Bless me – me too, my father!”
But he said, “Your brother came deceitfully and took your blessing.”
Esau said, “Isn’t he rightly named Jacob? He has deceived me these two times: He took my birthright, and now he’s taken my blessing!” Then he asked, “Haven’t you reserved any blessing for me?”
Isaac answered Esau, “I have made him lord over you and have made all his relatives his servants, and I have sustained him with grain and new wine. So what can I possibly do for you, my son?” – Genesis 27.33-37
Before the father died, he performed a ceremony of blessing, in which he officially handed over the birthright to the rightful heir. Although the firstborn son was entitled to the birthright, it was not actually his until the blessing was pronounced. Before the blessing was given, the father could take the birthright away from the oldest son and give it to a more deserving son. But after the blessing was given, the birthright could no longer be taken away. This is why fathers usually waited until late in life to pronounce the blessing. Although Jacob had been given the birthright by his older brothers years before, he still needed his father’s blessing to make it binding.
Sharing spiritual experiences in:
“ that you may tell your children and grandchildren how I dealt harshly with the Egyptians and how I performed my signs among them, and that you may know that I am the LORD.” – Exodus 10.2
God told Moses that his miraculous experience with Pharaoh should be retold to his descendants. What stories Moses had to tell Living out one of the greatest dramas in biblical history, he witnessed events few people would ever see. It is important to tell our children about God’s work in our past and to help them see what he is doing right now. What are the turning points in your life where God intervened? What is God doing for you now? Your stories will form the foundations of your children’s belief in God.
“ He said to the Israelites, “In the future when your descendants ask their fathers, ‘What do these stones mean?’ tell them, ‘Israel crossed the Jordan on dry ground.’ For the LORD your God dried up the Jordan before you until you had crossed over. The LORD your God did to the Jordan just what he had done to the Red Sea when he dried it up before us until we had crossed over. He did this so that all the peoples of the earth might know that the hand of the LORD is powerful and so that you might always fear the LORD your God.” – Joshua 4.21-24
The memorial of 12 stones was to be a constant reminder of the day the Israelites crossed the Jordan River on dry ground. Their children would see the stones, hear the story, and learn about God. Do you have traditions – special dates or special places – help your children learn about God’s work in your life? Do you take time to tell them what God has done for you – forgiving and saving you, answering your prayers, supplying your needs? Retelling your story will help keep memories of God’s faithfulness alive in your family.
Sin’s consequences passed to members of:
“ maintaining love to thousands, and forgiving wickedness, rebellion and sin. Yet he does not leave the guilty unpunished; he punishes the children and their children for the sin of the fathers to the third and fourth generation.” – Exodus 34.7
Why would sins affect grandchildren and great-grandchildren? This is no arbitrary punishment. Children still suffer for the sins of their parents. Consider child abuse or alcoholism, for example. While these sins are obvious, sins like selfishness and greed can be passed on as well. The dire consequences of sin are not limited to the individual family member. Be careful not to treat sin casually, but repent and turn from it. The sin may cause you little pain now, but it could sting in the most tender area of your life – your children and grandchildren.
Israelite festivals designed for:
“ The LORD said to Moses, “Say to the Israelites: ‘On the fifteenth day of the seventh month the LORD’S Feast of Tabernacles begins, and it lasts for seven days. The first day is a sacred assembly; do no regular work. For seven days present offerings made to the LORD by fire, and on the eighth day hold a sacred assembly and present an offering made to the LORD by fire. It is the closing assembly; do no regular work.
(“ ‘These are the LORD’S appointed feasts, which you are to proclaim as sacred assemblies for bringing offerings made to the LORD by fire – the burnt offerings and grain offerings, sacrifices and drink offerings required for each day. These offerings are in addition to those for the LORD’S Sabbaths and in addition to your gifts and whatever you have vowed and all the freewill offerings you give to the LORD.)
“ ‘So beginning with the fifteenth day of the seventh month, after you have gathered the crops of the land, celebrate the festival to the LORD for seven days; the first day is a of rest, and the eighth day also is a day of rest. On the first day you are to take choice fruit from the trees, and palm fronds, leafy branches and poplars, and rejoice before the LORD your God for seven days. Celebrate this as a festival to the LORD for seven days each year. This is to be a lasting ordinance for the generations to come; celebrate it in the seventh month. Live in booths for seven days: All native-born Israelites are to live in booths so that your descendants will know that I made the Israelites live in booths when I brought them out of Egypt. I am the LORD your God.’ “ – Leviticus 23.33-43
The Feast of Tabernacles, also called the Feast of Ingathering, was a special celebration involving the whole family (see 23.34; Exodus 23.16; Deuteronomy 16.13). Like Passover, this feast taught family members of all ages about God’s nature and what he had done for them and was a time of renewed commitment to God. Our families also need rituals of celebration to renew our faith and to pass it to our children. In addition to Christmas and Easter, we should select other special days to commemorate God’s goodness.
Hebrews’ emphasis on family worship:
“ And there rejoice before the LORD your God, you, your sons and daughters, your menservants and maidservants, and the Levites from your towns, who have no allotment or inheritance of their own.
Instead, you are to eat them in the presence of the LORD your God at the place the YOU’RE YOUR God will choose – you, your sons and daughters, your menservants and maidservants, and the Levites from your towns – and you are to rejoice before the LORD your God in everything you put your hand to. – Deuteronomy 12.12, 18
The Hebrews placed great emphasis on family worship. Whether offering a sacrifice or attending a great feast, the family was often together. This gave the children a healthy attitude towards worship, and it put extra meaning into it for the adults. Watching a family member confess his or her sin was just as important as celebrating a great holiday together. Although there are appropriate times to separate people by ages, some of the most meaningful worship can be experienced only when shared by old and young.
Parents’ immorality can destroy a family:
“ His concubine, who lived in Shechem, also bore him a son, whom he named Abimelech. – Judges 8.31
This relationship between Gideon and a concubine produced a son who tore apart Gideon’s family and caused tragedy for the nation. Gideon’s story illustrates the fact that heroes in battle are not always heroes in daily life. Gideon led the nation but could not lead his family. No matter who you are, moral laxness will cause problems. Just because you have won a single battle with temptation does not mean you will automatically win the next one. We need to be constantly watchful against temptation. Sometimes Satan’s [drunked layabout] strongest attacks come after a victory.
David failed to punish his son’s wrongdoing:
“When King David heard all this, he was furious. Absalom never said a word to Amnon, either good or bad; he hated Amnon because he had disgraced his sister Tamar.
Two years later, when Absalom’s sheep-shearers were at Baal Hazor near the border of Ephraim, he invited all the king’s sons to come there. Absalom went to the king and said, “Your servant has had shearers come. Will the king and his officials please join me?” – 2 Samuel 13.21-24
David was angry with Amnon for raping Tamar, but David did not punish him. David probably hesitated because (1) he didn’t want to cross Amnon, who was his firstborn son (1 Chronicles 3.1) and therefore next in line to be king, and (2) David was guilty of a similar sin himself in his adultery with Bathsheba. While David was unsurpassed as a king and military leader, he lacked skill and sensitivity as a husband and father.
Don’t take its spiritual well-being for granted:
“ (His father had never interfered with him by asking, “Why do you behave as you do?” He was also very handsome and was born next after Absalom.) – 1 Kings 1.6
God-fearing people like David and Samuel were used by God to lead nations, but nevertheless they had problems in family relationships. God-fearing leaders cannot take for granted the spiritual well-being of their children. They are used to having others follow their order, but they cannot expect their children to manufacture upon request. Moral and spiritual character takes years to build, and it requires constant attention and patient discipline.
David served God well as a king, but as a parent he often failed both God and his children. Don’t let your service to God even in leadership positions take up so much of your time and energy that you neglect your other God-given responsibilities.
Nation’s strength & family strength-related:
“ King Solomon conscripted labourers from all Israel – thirty thousand men. He sent them off to Lebanon in shifts of ten thousand a month, so that they spent one month in Lebanon and two months at home. Adoniram was in charge of the forced labour. – 1 Kings 5.13-14
Solomon drafted three times the number of workers needed for the temple project and then arranged their schedules so they didn’t have to be away from home for long periods of time. This showed his concern for the welfare of his workers and the importance he placed on family life. The strength of a nation in direct proportion to the strengths of its families. Solomon wisely recognised that family should always be a top priority. As you structure your own work or arrange the schedule of others, watch for the impact of your plans on families.
Helping yours to follow God:
“ Blessed are all who fear the LORD,
who walk in his ways. – Psalm 128:1ff
The psalmist wrote that a good family life is a reward for following God. The values outlined in God’s word include love, service, honesty, integrity, and prayer. These help all relationships, and they are especially vital to home life. Is your home life heavenly or hectic? Reading and obeying God’s word is a good place to start to make your family all that it should be.
One of God’s greatest resources:
“ He who brings trouble on his family will inherit only wind,
and the fool will be servant to the wise. – Proverb 11.29
One of the greatest resources God gives us is the family. Families provide acceptance, encouragement, guidance, and counsel. Bringing trouble on your family – whether through anger or through an exaggerated desire for independence – is foolish because you cut yourself off from all they provide. In your family, strive for healing, communication, and understanding.
Our spiritual family:
“ While Jesus was still talking to the crowd, his mother and brothers stood outside, wanting to speak to him. Some told him, “Your mother and brothers are standing outside, wanting to speak to you.”
He replied to him, “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” Pointing to his disciples, he said, “Where are my mother and my brothers. For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother. – Matthew 12.46-50
Jesus was not denying his responsibility to his earthly family. On the contrary, he criticised the religious leaders for not following the Old Testament command to honour their parents (15.1-9). He provided for his mother’s security as he hung on the cross (John 19.25-27). His mother and brothers were present in the upper room at Pentecost (Acts 1.14). Instead Jesus was pointing out that spiritual relationships are as binding as physical ones, and he was paving the way for a new community of believers (the universal church), our spiritual family.
“Who are my mother and my brothers?” he asked.
Then he looked at those seated in a circle around him and said, “Here are my mother and my brothers! Whoever does God’s will is my brother and sister and mother. – Mark 3.33-35
God’s family is accepting and doesn’t exclude anyone. Although Jesus cared for his mother and brothers, he also cared for all those who loved him. Jesus did not show partiality, he allowed everyone the privilege of obeying God and becoming part of his family. In our increasing computerised, impersonal world, warm relationships among members of God’s family take on major importance. The church can give the loving, personalised care that many people find nowhere else.
“ no longer a slave, but better than a slave, as a dear brother. He is very dear to me but even dearer to you, both as a man and as a brother in the Lord. – Philemon 16
What a difference Onesimus’ status as a Christian made in his relationship to Philemon. He was no longer merely a slave, but he was also a brother. That meant that both Oneismus and Philemon were members of God’s family – equals in Christ. A Christian’s status as a member of God’s family transcends all other distinctions among believers. Do you look down on any fellow Christians? Remember, they are your equals before Christ (Galatians 3.28). How you treat your brothes and sisters in Christ’s family reflects your true Christian commitment.
Jesus’ family missed point of his ministry:
“ When his family heard about this, they went to take charge of him, for they said, “He is out of his mind.” – Mark 3.21
With the crowds pressing in on him, Jesus didn’t even take time to eat. Because of this, his friends and family came to take charge of him (3.31, 32), thinking he had gone “over the top” as a religious fanatic. They were concerned for him, but they missed the point of his ministry. Even those who were closest to Jesus were slow to understand who he was and what he had come to do. [ie. “Aldi’s for the Allen family – from their Aunt”.]
Jewish ceremonies celebrating a birth:
“ On the eighth day, when it was time to circumcise him, he was named Jesus, the name the angel had given him before he had been conceived.
When the time of their purification according to the Law of Moses had been completed, Joseph and Mary took him to Jerusalem to present him to the Lord (as it is written in the Law of the Lord, “Every firstborn male is to be consecrated to the Lord”), and to offer a sacrifice in keeping with what is said in the Law of the Lord: “a pair of doves or two young pigeons”. – Luke 2.21-24
Jewish families went through several ceremonies soon after a baby’s birth: (1) Circumcision. Every boy was circumcised and named on the eighth day after birth (Leviticus 12.3; Luke 1.59, 60). Circumcision symbolised the Jews’ separation from Gentiles and their unique relationship with God (see the second note on 1.59). (2) Redemption of the firstborn. A firstborn son was presented to God one month after birth (Exodus 13.2, 11-16; Numbers 18.15, 16). The ceremony including buying back – “redeeming” – the child from God through an offering. Thus the parents acknowledged that the child belonged to God, who alone has the power to give live. (3) Purification of the mother. For 40 days after the birth of a son and 80 days after the birth of a daughter, the mother was ceremonially unclean and could not enter the temple. At the end of her time of separation, the parents were to bring a lamb for a burnt offering and a dove or pigeon for a sin offering. The priest would sacrifice these animals and declare her to be clean. If a lamb was too expensive, the parents could bring a second dove or pigeon instead. This is what Mary and Joseph did.
Jesus was God’s Son, but his family carried out these ceremonies according to God’s law. Jesus was not born above the law; instead, he fulfilled it perfectly.
Importance of honouring yours:
“Why were you searching for me?” he asked. “Didn’t you know I had to be in my Father’s house?” But they did not understand what he was saying to them. – Luke 2.49-50
This is the first mention of Jesus’ awareness that he was God’s Son. But even though he knew his real Father, he did not reject his earthly parents. He went back to Nazareth with them and lived under their authority for another 18 years. God’s people do not despise human relationships or family responsibilities. If the Son of God obeyed his human parents, how much more should we honour our family members! Don’t use commitment to God’s work to justify neglecting your family.
Jesus concerned for his even at death:
“ Near the cross of Jesus stood his mother, his mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, and Mary Magdalene. When Jesus saw his mother there, and the disciple whom he loved standing near by, he said to his mother, “Dear woman, here is your son,” and to the disciple, “Here is your mother.” From that time on, this disciple took her into his home. – John 19.25-27
Even while dying on the cross, Jesus was concerned about his family. He instructed John to care for Mary, Jesus’ mother. Our families are precious gifts from God, and we should value and care for them under all circumstances. Neither Christian work nor key responsibilities in any job or position excuse us from caring for our families. What can you do today to show your love for your family?
How faithful parents can impact world:
“ He came to Derbe and then to Lystra, where a disciple named Timothy lived, whose mother was a Jewess and a believer, but whose father was a Greek. – Acts 16.1
Timothy is the first second-generation Christian mentioned in the New Testament. His mother, Eunice, and grandmother, Lois (2 Timothy 1.5), had become believers and had faithfully influenced him for the Lord. Although Timothy’s father was apparently not a Christian, the faithfulness of Timothy’s mother and grandmother prevailed. Never underestimate the far-reaching consequences of raising one small child to love the lord.
How to be a member of God’s family:
“ A man is not a Jew if he is only one outwardly, nor is circumcision merely outward and physical. No, a man is a Jew if he is one inwardly; and circumcision is circumcision of the heart, by the Spirit, not by the written code. Such a man’s praise is not from men, but from God – Romans 2.28-29
To be a Jew meant you were in God’s family, an heir to all his promises. Yet Paul made it clear that membership in God’s family is based on internal, not external, qualities. All whose hearts are right with God are real Jews – that is, part of God’s family (see also Galatians 3.7). Attending church or being baptised, confirmed, or accepted for membership is not enough, just as submitting to circumcision was not enough for the Jews. God desires our heartfelt devotion and obedience. (See also Deuteronomy 10.16; Jeremiah 4.4 for more on “circumcision of the heart”.)
“ he predestined us to be adopted as his sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will – Ephesians 1.5
“Predestined” means marked out beforehand. This is another way of saying that salvation is God’s work and not our own doing. In his infinite love, God has adopted us as his own children. Through Jesus’ sacrifice, he has brought us into his family and made us heirs along with Jesus (Romans 8.17). In Roman law, adopted children had the same rights and privileges as biological children, even if they had been slaves. Paul uses this term to show how strong our relationship to God is. Have you entered into this loving relationship with God? For more on the meaning of adoption, see Galatians 4.5-7.
Building relationships at home:
“ Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honour your father and mother” – which is the first commandment with a promise – “that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”
Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. – Ephesians 6.1-4
If our faith in Christ is real, it will usually prove itself at home, in our relationships with those who know us best. Children and parents have a responsibility to each other. Children should honour their parents even if the parents are demanding and unfair. Parents should care gently for their children, even if the children are disobedient and unpleasant. Ideally, of course, Christian parents and Christian children will relate to each other with thoughtfulness and love. This will happen if both parents and children put the others’ interest above their own – that is, if they submit to one another.
Families responsible to care for their members:
“ Give proper recognition to those widows who are really in need. – 1 Timothy 5:3ff
Paul wanted Christian families to be as self-supporting as possible. He insisted that children and grandchildren take care of the widows in their families (5.4); he suggested that younger widows remarry and start new families (5.14); and he ordered the church not to support lazy members who refused to work (2 Thessalonians 3.10). Nevertheless, when necessary, the believers pooled their resources (Acts 2.44-47; they gave generously to help disaster-ridden churches (1 Corinthians 16.1-4); and they took care of a large number of widows (Acts 6.1-6). The church has always had limited resources, and it has always had to balance financial responsibility with generosity. It only makes sense for members to work as hard as they can and to be as independent as possible, so they can adequately care for themselves and for less fortunate members. When church members are both responsible and generous, everyone’s needs will be met.
Paul’s strong words for those who neglect their families:
“ If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. – 1 Timothy 5.8
Almost everyone has relatives, family of some kind. Family relationships are so important in God’s eyes, Paul says, that a person who neglects his or her family responsibilities has denied the faith. Are you doing your part to meet the needs of those included in your family circle? [eg. ‘Titanic’]
Share the gospel with yours:
“ I have been reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and, I am persuaded, now lives in you also. – 2 Timothy 1.5
Crete, a small island in the Mediterranean Sea, had a large population of Jews. The churches there were probably founded by Cretan Jews who had been in Jerusalem at Pentecost (Acts 2.11) more than 30 years before Paul wrote this letter.
Man’s responsibility to:
“ Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled. – Titus 2.6
This advice given to young men was very important. In ancient Greek society, the role of the husband/father was not viewed as a nurturing role, but merely as a functional one. Many young men today have been brought up in families where fathers have neglected their responsibilities to their wives and children. Husbands and fathers who are good examples of Christian living are important role models for young men who need to see how it is done.


